Category Archives: Holidays

Being Social and Having a Life while Immunocompromised?

CLEANING HOUSE while Sachiko watches and listens

Victoria and I are talking about getting out more, socializing more, and hosting family/friends again. In the coming weeks, we’re hoping to travel (day trips), visit close friends, and host family at our house for Thanksgiving.

So, the questions become how to take reasonable precautions, how to balance health vs acceptable risks, and how to have a life again while realizing if I do get sick, it will mean a week in the hospital during Christmas and New Year’s.

To be completely honest, I’m a little burnt out on this whole repeated and lengthy stay in the hospital each year. If I can manage to make it through the holidays and into the new year without a hospital stay, it will be the FIRST in over four years.

So — how to be careful, take precautions, acceptable risk, have a life, but realize it’s going to be rough and unpleasant if I do get sick.

 


Happy Diwali (Thursday, November 4th, 2021)

HAPPY DIWALI
The festive season is upon us and we have been celebrating a string of festivals back-to-back. After marking Navratri, Dussehra and Karwa Chauth, it is time to celebrate the festival of light – Diwali (or Deepavali).

HAPPY DIWALI

The festive season is upon us and we have been celebrating a string of festivals back-to-back. After marking Navratri, Dussehra and Karwa Chauth, it is time to celebrate the festival of light – Diwali (or Deepavali).

One of the most important festivals among Hindus, it is widely celebrated in every part of the country. This festival is widely associated with Goddess Lakshmi and several people perform Lakshmi puja on this day for wealth and prosperity.

In some regions of the country, Diwali is marked as the day when Lord Ram, along with wife Sita and brother Lakshman, returned to Ayodhya after 14 years of exile. Diwali also coincides with Kali Pujo, celebrated across Bengal. Deepavali basically symbolizes the victory of “good over evil, light over darkness and knowledge over ignorance”. People celebrate this day with much fun and fervor.

Every year, Diwali falls in the month of Kartika, as per the Hindu lunisolar calendar (which is between mid-October and mid-November).

This year, Diwali will be celebrated on 4th November, 2021. However, the celebration will be extended for 6-long days and will culminate with Bhai Dooj on 6th November, 2021.

Causing a Minor “International Incident”

Important Points to Consider in International Shipping

Vicky and I have shipped packages to the Philippines, Singapore, China, Japan, Canada, and Europe but this was the first time I got a dozen phone calls and emails from US Customs and Canadian Customs.

I ran out of packing tape so I used metallic duct tape to close and seal the gift package after bubble wrap and boxing it. The use of metallic duct tape immediately set off red flags and warnings by international customs.

In case you’re curious, it’s $80-$150 USD in fines for improper packaging if you’re ever so foolish. I had to call each customs inspector, sign forms, and give each a written statement of the package contents, packing technique, shipper (us), recipient (a friend), purchase history and taxes paid.

In the end, I was able to apologize and get the fines waived. Both nations’ Customs inspectors were very kind when I was apologetic, signed their forms, and gave them written statements.

But SERIOUSLY, NEVER use duct tape in shipping packages! 😝☝️

Simply and Blessedly Thankful

Foreman Family at EasterKen, Victoria, Kiyomi, and Toshiro

These past few years have truly and utterly been a roller coaster on so many layers…

  • I was diagnosed with Stage 4 Cancer, I underwent two-and-a-half years of chemotherapy and radiation therapy.
  • I travelled to Johns Hopkins (Baltimore, MD), the National Institutes of Health (Bethesda, MD), the Seattle Cancer Care Alliance (Seattle, WA), and Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center (Seattle, WA).
  • I was employed by Sophos, laid off as part of a reduction-in-force along with 130 other developers and engineers, unemployed, and then joined Teaching Strategies, LLC.
  • Like so many others, experiencing a whirlwind of employment and finances as part of my medical expenses, the pandemic, the economy, and the stock market.
  • Met and made many new friends along the way between Facebook, Twitter, and our medical travels.

And so here I am, a quarter of the way through 2021… by the Grace of God, I’m currently in remission. This is actually my second remission since my first lasted only a few months before my Mantle Cell Lymphoma made a re-appearance.  Thankfully (and I fall to my knees and give thanks for this!), this is also my longest remission, going on a year now.

And so we just ended our 40-day Lenten journey together and celebrated Easter together as a family at home.  I was hospitalized twice during the 40 days of Lent, for a week both times, so I do need to continue taking diligent and fastidious care of myself.  I’m still neutropenic, immunocompromised, and battling Stage 2-3 Lymphoma of my left leg as well as the neuropathy that accompanies it.

But I am thankful beyond all words.  Our family has been blessed and we’re fortunate.  Our little family will be growing by one more in May as little Sachiko joins Kiyomi and Toshiro as our third Shetland Sheepdog.  She was born on Sunday, April 14th (3.14, aka “Pi Day”), so she’ll join our Cinco de Mayo Sheltie (Kiyomi, born May 5th) and Toshiro (born May 28th).

Happy Easter!

Together as Family at St. John Neumann (Reston, VA)

Together as Family at St. John Neumann (Reston, VA)

Together as Family at St. John Neumann (Reston, VA)

Kiyomi at St John Neumman (Reston, VA)

HAPPY EASTER!
Happy Easter, from our little family to yours… with love from Ken, Victoria, Kiyomi, Toshirō (and soon baby Sachiko!)

“Man’s fate is like that of the animals; the same fate awaits them both: As one dies, so dies the other. All have the same breath, man has no advantage over the animal. Everything is meaningless. All go to the same place; all come from dust and to dust all return. Who knows if the spirit of man rises upward and if the spirit of the animal goes down into the earth?”

—Ecclesiastes 3:19-21

Anno Domini 2021 – A rough start, but with so much potential

Scenes from my 48th Birthday with Family (November 7th, 2020)

Scenes from my 48th Birthday with Family (November 7th, 2020)

I think most people would agree: 2020 was a terrible year. Between the Coronavirus pandemic, 351,000 dead Americans, quarantines, lockdowns at home, protests and riots in numerous cities, civil unrest, civil injustice, racism, wanton murder of minorities, the economy, and vast political schisms between Americans affecting everything we say and do… well, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and to want it to all be over, one way or another.

I think many of us thought and hoped that 2021 would be a better year.  Maybe it was starting better, but then civil unrest became a civil insurrection as a massive crowd of Trump supporters carrying a variety of flags and slogans stormed the US Capitol Building to interrupt the Electoral College on Wednesday, January 6th.  Within a day, our President and political parties tried recasting it as “Antifa”, terrorists, “not us”, but it was President Trump who addressed the crowd personally and on giant monitors before the crowd rushed the Capitol building.  They were being praised as “patriots” before they were re-cast as insurrectionists and terrorists.  I am sure if they were successful in interrupting, postponing, or overturning the Electoral College, they would have been highly praised as “patriots” by President Trump and his supporters.

Unfortunately, I was there in Washington, DC, when it happened.  I wasn’t there because I wanted to watch or participate in the protests.  I was there because Kaiser-Permanente of Capitol Hill is on 2nd Street, just two blocks away from Union Station and Columbus Circle.  Vicky and I were driving through DC at 6:30 AM in the morning when the crowds had already gathered and stood about on the streets, blocking traffic while the police did nothing to enforce vehicular right-of-way.  I spent a couple of hours getting IV radioisotopes and lying in a GE Optima PET/CT scanner as the radiologist did a long, slow pass from my sinuses to my knees.  By 10:30, when we were able to leave, the crowds had already grown substantially and a number of politicians from Rudy Gulliani to Donald Trump were addressing the crowd.  Vicky and I just wanted to get away from there, to escape the crowds and the protests, and to go home.

We left the news off for most of the day, but heard about the storming of the Congressional Building by 5:30 that evening.  We were both dismayed, wondering what we would awake to in the morning.

And so begins 2021.  Given the terror and unrest of January 6th, I have very little hope for a peaceful transition of power on Inauguration Day (Wednesday, January 20th, 2021).  I think President Trump and his supporters will do everything within the power to be noisy, disruptive, and disrespectful.  I hope that I’m wrong and that I look back on this blog entry as completely mistaken, but nothing so far shows reasonable people, common courtesy, or basic respect.

But it’s still the first two weeks of 2021, despite all that has happened.  It’s a new year.  Soon we’ll have a new President.  Hopefully the Coronavirus vaccines will get better distributed and disseminated to everyone.  I keep hoping and praying that it’ll get better.

It must, right?

Best Wishes for a Better Year in 2021

Family Together at New Years, 2020

Family Together at New Years, 2020

Family Together at New Years, 2020

HAPPY NEW YEAR!  

 

Best wishes for health, happiness, and prosperity from our little family to yours.
With love from Victoria, Ken, Kiyomi, and Toshirō.  

It’s kinda nice knowing that 2021 is the year that our family grows by one more. We’re looking forward to seeing how Kiyomi and Toshiro do with a baby sister, and how quickly she grows into our family.

I’m sure training our new puppy will reinforce some of Toshiro’s training. I also suspect she might learn faster, mimicking and watching Kiyomi and Toshiro, and seeing that the pack gets rewarded with cuddles, toys, and treats.

Second Sunday of Advent, 2019

Celebrating the Second Sunday of Advent

SECOND SUNDAY OF ADVENT – SUNDAY, DECEMBER 8TH, 2019

“Life is a constant Advent season: we are continually waiting to become, to discover, to complete, to fulfill. Hope, struggle, fear, expectation, and fulfillment are all part of our Advent experience.

“The world is not as just, not as loving, not as whole as we know it can and should be. But the coming of Christ and his presence among us—as one of us—give us reason to live in hope: that light will shatter the darkness, that we can be liberated from our fears and prejudices, that we are never alone or abandoned.

“May this Advent season be a time for bringing hope, transformation and fulfillment into the Advent of our lives.”

Life Is an Advent Season
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